Christian Pre-Marriage Coaching

The Character Method - Transform Your Marriage Communication

Is Poor Communication Slowly Destroying Your Marriage?

Discover the 20 hidden character barriers that sabotage even the most loving Christian couples...

And learn the biblical method that transforms hearts, heals wounds, and creates the deep connection you've been longing for.

The Character Method

20 Barriers
4 Foundations
Biblical Truth
Lasting Change

Do Any of These Sound Familiar?

Conversations Turn Into Arguments

You try to talk, but somehow every discussion becomes a fight. You both want to connect, but you keep hurting each other instead.

Walking on Eggshells

You've learned to avoid certain topics because they always lead to conflict. The silence feels safer, but the distance is growing.

Same Problems, Different Day

You've had the same argument 100 times. Nothing changes. You're both tired of going in circles.

Feeling Unheard and Misunderstood

You try to share your heart, but your spouse doesn't seem to get it. They get defensive or dismiss your concerns.

Growing Apart Instead of Together

You love each other, but you're living like roommates. The emotional intimacy you once had feels like a distant memory.

"This Isn't What I Expected"

Marriage was supposed to be your safe haven, but sometimes it feels like a battlefield. You wonder if you're the only ones struggling.

Maybe You've Even Thought...

"We just don't communicate well"
"My spouse never listens to me"
"We always fight about the same things"
"I feel so alone in my marriage"
"Maybe we're just not compatible"
"I don't know how to fix this"
"We need help, but don't know where to start"
"I'm tired of pretending everything's fine"

What If The Problem Isn't Your Communication Skills?

After years of marriage ministry and biblical counseling, we've discovered something powerful: most communication problems aren't actually communication problems—they're character problems.

The techniques you've tried fail because they don't address the heart issues underneath. But when you transform your character, your communication naturally becomes more loving, truthful, and grace-filled.

Part 1: Foundation of Self

Address selfishness, pride, denial, insecurity, and defensiveness that block authentic connection.

Part 2: Heart of Forgiveness

Heal wounds from unforgiveness, negativity, silence, revenge, and unfaithfulness.

Part 3: Practice of Truth

Build transparency by overcoming lies, secrecy, manipulation, and lack of growth.

Part 4: Expression of Love

Show active care through attention, investment, support, empathy, and respect.

Imagine Your Marriage When...

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Conversations Flow Naturally

You can discuss anything—even difficult topics—with grace, understanding, and love. Conflict becomes a pathway to deeper intimacy.

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You Feel Truly Known

Your spouse sees your heart, understands your needs, and makes you feel valued and cherished every day.

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Your Marriage Is Your Safe Haven

Home becomes the place where you can be completely yourself—loved, accepted, and supported unconditionally.

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You Grow Together

Instead of growing apart, you become each other's biggest supporter, helping one another become who God created you to be.

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Your Love Deepens Over Time

Rather than just surviving, your marriage becomes a beautiful testimony of God's transforming love that inspires others.

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God Is Glorified

Your relationship reflects Christ's love for the church, becoming a powerful witness to your children and community.

What You'll Discover Inside

1

The Barrier Assessment

Identify your top growth areas with our comprehensive evaluation tool

2

Foundation Issues

Overcome selfishness, pride, denial, insecurity, and defensiveness

3

Forgiveness Practices

Heal from unforgiveness, negativity, silence, revenge, and betrayal

4

Truth & Transparency

Eliminate lies, secrecy, manipulation, and commit to growth

5

Active Love

Express love through attention, investment, support, empathy, and respect

6

Practical Exercises

Hands-on activities for each barrier with step-by-step implementation

7

Biblical Foundation

Scripture-based insights for lasting transformation rooted in God's truth

8

Ongoing Practices

Daily, weekly, and monthly habits to maintain and grow your progress

"Marriage is a major vehicle for the gospel's remaking of your heart from the inside out and your life from the ground up."

— Pastor Tim Keller

Meet Your Guides

Felice & Retta Mathieu

Founders of Married As One LLC, Felice and Retta bring a unique combination of personal experience, clinical research, and deep biblical study to marriage ministry.

Felice's Journey: Growing up as an orphan created an intense hunger to understand what makes relationships not just survive, but truly thrive. This personal experience led to years of studying relationship science and biblical truth.

Retta's Foundation: As a pastor's kid, Retta witnessed firsthand how biblical principles, when lived authentically, create marriages that weather every storm.

Together, they've helped countless couples build marriages that don't just endure—they become sources of healing, joy, and witness to God's redemptive love.

Felice and Retta Mathieu

Frequently Asked Questions

Is this just another communication book?

No! Most communication books focus on techniques. The Character Method addresses the heart issues underneath that cause communication to break down. When your character is transformed, communication naturally improves.

What if my spouse won't participate?

You can start the transformation in your own heart. As you change, your marriage dynamic will begin to shift. Many spouses become interested once they see the positive changes in their partner.

How is this different from counseling?

This book can complement counseling beautifully, but it's designed for couples to work through together. It provides a structured, biblical approach you can implement immediately in your own home.

What if we're newlyweds vs. married for decades?

The Character Method works for couples at any stage. Newlyweds can build healthy patterns from the start, while long-married couples can break destructive cycles and create new intimacy.

How long does it take to see results?

Some couples notice improvements within the first week as they begin implementing the principles. Deeper transformation happens over months as character change takes root in your relationship.

Don't Let Another Year Go By Struggling

Your marriage is worth fighting for. The tools you need for transformation are right here, waiting for you to take the first step.

Character matters more than chemistry. Growth is always possible with God's help.

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